Do parents create their children’s problems?
A lot of the time yes. Of course each child has a different personality and sometimes it’s the way we approach situations with our children that cause them to react in certain ways.
However if we are very anxious parents, and if we tend to be anxious about most situations that our children are in, then absolutely we will cause nervous and anxious children. Children feed off our emotions.
If we are relaxed parents and we approach each new and challenging situation that our children are in, in a calm and positive manner, then our children will feel calm about their new situations.
When your children are small, and experience situations like new daycares, or preschools, one must remember that this it is as equally new for your child as it is for the parents. I understand that change is not easy and that we all want our little children to be happy in their new situations. Parents must remember that just like an adult takes time to adjust and settle in to new situations, so does a child.
When your little one is adjusting to their new daycare or preschool environment, parents must be prepared for adjustment time. Always make your goodbyes quick as the quicker one leaves the quicker your child’s attention can be redirected and they can settle down easily into their new environment.
This also applies to your children from kindergarten right through the elementary grades and high school too. It even applies to your children who become young adults and approach university and after that have to go for their first job interview.
Parenting is not always easy and no one gave us a manual to follow. However a lot of children’s problems and anxiety’s comes from their parents own doing. So try and relax on your journey during parenting, and approach each step calmly and positively.
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